Today’s realization is about loneliness. I realized that loneliness is temporary. Like I’m happy this morning and suddenly gets lonely in the afternoon and then I’m happy again. Some people deal with loneliness for a long period of time, even years, but I still believe that it is temporary because it is not forever, unless it is your choice or you are dealing with depression.
How to deal with loneliness for me is to know the reasons why you are lonely and there are reasons, even if you think there isn’t. So here are some common reasons why I am lonely and how I deal with it. If you are the type of person who gets lonely all of a sudden or if you are lonely today, maybe this can help you.
There is a problem. Problem is the most common reason why I am lonely. As a freelancer, my work comes and go. Not having a fix job can give me anxiety and when my client calls the project off for some reasons, it is easy to fall into hopelessness and loneliness, but this is not the end of the world. How I deal with it is not to think about it too much, accept it and don’t make a big deal out of it. I look for a new project immediately, so there is still hope. This time, I make it sure that I will not experience the same agony again. So, I look for more than one project, I get a full time job and then a part time, so when I lost one, I still have one to fund me while I’m looking for a new one. What is great about working online is that you have the flexibility to choose the number of clients to work with and the number of hours you will work. Problem at work is only one example, another common problem is relationship. But this is just what you have to remember, whenever you have a setback, come back stronger.
Tired. When I am tired of doing many things, I felt so lonely. Maybe you didn’t realize that you are lonely because you are tired. Tired of doing so many things every day. Maybe you are tired of doing the same thing every day. The cure to this loneliness is simple and we all know it. Rest. Take a break of what you are doing. Give yourself a chance to breath. In my working days, I take time to visit my mini garden for a quick break. I also see to it that I take a break once a week from my daily routine. On Sunday, I sometimes choose not to pick up my phone and avoid radiation as much as possible. I also use this day to catch up with friends and say hi to my neighbors. I just make make sure I am not working once a week. It is easy for some employee, but for me who has home based job, I am tempted to work on weekends, but not anymore. My sanity is far more important than money.
Not doing anything. On the other hand, too much rest also makes me feel lonely. I often question myself, what I am doing with my life. I know many people are feeling that way right now because we are in a quarantine period. Whenever, I feel lost, I just go back to my notes and check my goals and then in an instant, I have a direction and I have a lot of things to do. When I started acting on it, I forgot my loneliness because I remember why I am here.
There are a lot of reasons I can think of why we are lonely, but that’s it for now. The most important thing is to know that whatever you are feeling right now, it will come to pass. Also, know that you have the power to shift your mood or to do something to overcome loneliness.